Are you not listening? The bonds between man and wife that matter spiritually are the bonds of charity and are like those that united Christ and his Church. They are not interested in "events " but persons.
Sorry, but you missed the place where I quoted Ratzinger. Purgatory is not a jail.
Purgatory (Lat., "purgare", to make clean, to purify) in accordance with Catholic teaching is a place or condition of temporal punishment for those who, departing this life in God's grace, are, not entirely free from venial faults, or have not fully paid the satisfaction due to their transgressions.Dave said it was an oven for burning off the imperfections..so who is right?
That temporal punishment is due to sin, even after the sin itself has been pardoned by God,
Is God a hypocrite? He forgives but does not forget? He holds your FORGIVEN sins against you?