To be consistent, you would have to maintain that he was saved (although nothing is said that he was), because if he wasn't saved, the notion that a man has to be regenerated before God can reach him falls by the wayside.
I agree with your assessment of the attributes of both the Father and the Son, and the decision they would make is to reach all men so every man has a choice to make and not have had that choice made by God for him in a Eternal Decree. (Rom.1, Ps.19, 1Tim.2:4, 2Pet.3:9)
Your second clause is not consistent with Rom 9:8-26. Custance, White, and others have shown convincingly that the use of pas in 1 Ti 2:1 and 4 is consistent with "all classes" or "all types" of men. As for 2 Pet 3:9, one must ask "all what?". The context there shows that the verse is referring to believers.
There are two many verses like Prov 19:21 and Prov 20:24 and John 6:44-45 for me to believe that the elect can resist the call of God. And those who are not sheep do not come because they are not sheep. God is just in His dealings with them.
I'm sure neither of these arguments comes as a surprise to you...