Thank you,JMJ333.I like the way you explained NYer's question better than my effort.
You're welcome. This discussion has me thinking about St. Rita. She begged and prayed to participate in Christ's passion, and her prayer was answered by her receiving 1 thorn for Our Lord's crown of thorns. Talk about true suffering. The wound, which was in the middle of her forehead, festered, often had maggots in it, and never healed, except for one time when she left the convent to go on a religious retreat. She was disdained by the other nuns in the convent because it had a terrible odor to it. She bore all this with a humility that is foreign to most of us.
The principle is the same. Her goal was to bring souls to Christ by uniting her suffering to His.