Are you saying that there is not enough room in your theology for Divine Sovereignty, Free Grace and Human Responsibility?
No, but you have to be able to explain how they relate, that is the paradox that has to be addressed.
Can man say 'no' to God?
Is God still Sovereign if he does?
There are only two possible views, either man is 'elect' because he believes, or he believes because he is 'elect'
Which side do you fall on or do you see a third way?