Kind regards back! Question: if you were a woman would you want to be with a man who is saying he is going to be with a woman out of duty? I definitely would not because that is obviously not in his nature. A relationship like that just begs for pain and sadness for both the man & the woman.
Thanks!
Good question.
I am a pastor and have done some marital counseling through the years, not that much lately though.
But from that perspective I can tell you that the women who have done so are very fulfilled and happy, being Godly, even Christlike in their sacrificial service and loyalty to duty. Dr. Bob Jones Sr. the prominent fundamentalist evangelist of the turn of the 20th century and the founder of Bob Jones Univ. in 1927 said it this way, “You don’t find happiness looking for it, you stumble across it on the road of duty.”
Jesus said it this way, “It is the spirit that quickeneth. The flesh profiteth nothing...” Or to apply that to what you were saying, You must go against your nature, which is sinful, selfish, lazy etc. every time you do what is right.
I don’t necessarily disagree about caution for the girls. I would think rather that they should take guard against their own romantic blindness. Marriage ain’t a romance novel. If she finds a man of honor who will keep his vow and do his duty, she should count her blessings!
BrianD