Why wouldn't this same Jewish woman be willing to help you or me?
—> Why wouldn’t this same Jewish woman be willing to help you or me?
Start by pointing to the scripture that says Mary can hear prayer.
Then demonstrate from scripture why you believe Mary has emotional leverage over God to persuade Him to do her bidding.
Then explain why you ignore the clear commands to enter boldly into the presence of the Father and ask anything in Christ’s Name - instead trying to skulk in the back door and manipulate God?
Nobody said she wouldn't be willing, so that's a false accusation lobbed against non-Catholics.
But she can't. She doesn't have that power.