Very good points.
I would add that it was the Romans who really hated polygamy, and it was their conquest of Europe that made monogamy the European norm in contrast to the rest of the world.
These cults, however, are still left with large numbers of young men who are shut out in the bridal sweepstakes. After being passed over enough times, it becomes clear that they are unlikely ever to be assigned a wife, or at least a wife they would want. They become outcasts. Some are unceremoniously forced out as "lost boys," roaming the streets until they figure something out. I suppose that most are able to find a support network to ease their transition out of the cult into normal society -- people living in the vicinity of polygamous compounds are aware of the problem -- but they are still expelled.
The lost boys issue doesn't get nearly as much attention as it should. The culture is hardwired nowadays to view polygamy in terms of the exploitation of women, which is fair enough, but at least wives in polygamous cults have a licit and honorable place. The lost boys are simply disappeared. There was a tv movie a few years ago, Escape from Polygamy, that touched on this. It was produced in the wake of the Warren Jeffs scandal and was rather topical, being focused on a predatory cult leader and the attempt of a young couple in love to escape before the girl is condemned to a forced marriage. It's an ok movie -- a bit melodramatic in a Lifetime Movie kind of way -- with some good acting. The lost boys do surface as a major subplot.