I have been thinking that same thing for quite sometime now bro. No matter how eloquently you put it, it just seems to go in one ear, and out the other. 🤗
One True Placemarker.
Sometimes we just have to give them up to the Lord and pray they will see their error before it is too late. Some people are very proud of their own piousness, holiness and goodness and it is this pride that prevents them from truly comprehending the awesome gift of eternal life that comes to us through faith alone because of God's matchless grace. They don't GET grace - they think somehow grace must be earned or merited but GRACE means unmerited and unearned. They can't understand that our works of faith and love are a result of the new birth and not the cause of the new birth nor the way to KEEP it.
I know it seems futile sometimes, but keep praying for them and standing up for the GOSPEL - the GOOD NEWS!