I had to look up when all this was taking place, we invaded Iraq in 2003, and he turned 50 in 2002, so it was a few year period before his “blow out” with us which culminated on I think 2005 Christmas Day. So that was 13 years ago. (I mentioned invading Iraq because he would drone on and on about Bush and Iraq, every time I saw him, and I actually got the impression this was a Willow Creek thing, he explained his church was very anti-war, he insulted me often in this period for my Army service (I enlisted in 65 when he was like 12 or 13, and he never got drafted) , he had gone total peace hippy - again, I say hippy, because those are people who were anti-war when I was a young man, but he wasn’t a tambourine playing long beard hippy, at least in public). This is important, because BEFORE Willow Creek, he was always proud of his older brother (me). After Willow Creek, I was a bad person for my time in SEA and VN. There was a definite shift in our relationship.
You said you attended Willow Creek, so if you were in that time period, maybe you know my brother. He spend every hour he could at that church, in all sorts of youth guidance roles and setting up stages and lighting.
I don’t know how the church has changed since, but apparently not for the better....
Don’t go blaming that wicked church. While they have guilt, your brother is the one who got himself into the mess.
The book of 1 Peter talks about how fleshly desire and lusts of all kind are ultimately manifested. And that manifestation is really ugly.