So I reiterate the point. Jesus commanded us to love others as He loved us. A constant, overarching focus on the secret rapture indeed distracts believers from that imperative
I disagree. I don't see the two as being mutually exclusive.
There's simply no reason why believing in the rapture would preclude someone living as Jesus commanded us to live.
And your criticisms of the person's behavior did not disprove his point because your criticisms were of what you perceieved his attitude to be, not based on what he did or did not do.
My evidence against a secret-rapture was solid. It was met with false accusations. If you don’t want to believe that’s what happened, that’s your choice.