What do you think the martyrs would think of your temporal concerns? I am not saying that we all have the courage of the martyrs, but, reality is, Catholics are called to make sacrifices for Christ.
I believe it would be very presumptuous of me to tell a baker (or florist, wedding photographer, hotelier, banquet room proprietor, etc.) that he must deny products and services to customers if he knows they will be used in support of an invalid wedding.
Given the current climate such a business owner would almost certainly be sued putting his business, his family, and his employees in financial jeopardy.
Personally I believe that the Catholic Church has failed its members with regard to these issues. When pharmacists were required to sell morning after pills or lose their jobs the Catholic Church should have organized mass protests in support of Catholic pharmacists. Instead, individual pharmacists were left to face the legal and political consequences on their own. Similar incidents are happening with regard to bakers, florists, photographers, etc. The Church only seems to care when the current unconstitutional nonsense directly impacts Catholic institutions, but even then only with tepid opposition.
Some may find it very easy to ask others to be martyrs at a time when they lack even the support of the Church. I don't.