Do you believe a Catholic priest is obliged to perform a marriage ceremony for two dudes if the "state" demands it?
I am also upset that bakers have to bake cakes for gay "weddings", etc. but I have the luxury of not owning a bakery or working for a bakery.
These are all very tough questions because people have got to make a living and we are no longer living in a Christian nation. I really don't know what the answer is. I imagine it is something that can and must be decided on a case-by-case basis, but it certainly isn't easy.
Take the case of a Catholic baker. Some bakeries only survive because they make expensive cakes for special occasions such as wedding receptions. Most if not all of these Catholic bakers have at one time or another unknowingly made a cake for a couple of Catholics who were not validly married. I know of no bakers who go out of their way to ask anyone that comes in for a wedding cake if they are Catholic and if their marriage will be deemed valid in the eyes of the Church. Do you?
From what you've typed you would declare that all of these Catholic bakers are in danger of going to Hell. But if they did ask probing questions, as you imply they must, then they will no doubt be sued out of business. And what if it is a family owned business that they've run for decades?
Easy for you or me to tell them to just close shop and try and get a job as a greeter for Walmart.