Keep in mind that we're not discussing a case of a personality conflict or some other disagreement; we're talking a case of one Christian sinning against another. Under such circumstances, the offended party is under no obligation to repent. We're not to bear grudges or wish them ill - we're to pray for them in the hope that they will come to repentance so that they relationship will be restored. However, if the person who sins against you refuses to repent, Jesus clearly instructs us as to what we should do in Matthew 18. First, we should reason with the other party, personally. We shouldn't involve others or crank up the rumor mill. It could be that it's just a misunderstanding that can be worked out between the two of you and, if so, it should go no further. If not, then we are to approach the person with two or three witnesses so that the facts can be confirmed. If the person still cannot be won over, he is to be taken before the church. If that extreme effort fails, then he is to be disfellowshipped.
Simply saying, "I forgive you" and moving on without holding that person to account only increases the likelihood that the behavior will be repeated. Finally, this entire process is not an act of malice or vengeance; it's an act of love with the aim of getting a brother to see the error of his ways and make things right. If the offended party sees it any other way, then he has issues of his own to contend with.
we’re talking a case of one Christian sinning against another.
Forgiveness has become too cheap a word. There is much behind that simple word. When I read the stories in the paper of parents forgiving someone who has murdered their child, something is not right for me. Of course this is through the filter of the news paper and I don’t know the hearts of the parents or offender. but I don’t think it is forgiveness that should be expressed, but trust in God for the situation. On the other hand if it is forgiveness it is incomplete?
Now in the case of non Christians? I ask because it seems many are confused and think the response is the same in both situations. We like simple answers to apply in all situations.
By the way, thanks for the iron sharpening.