You mean help them justify being transgender by making God into the same?! How is justifying sins helping anyone? Do you want to argue that it is not? Please answer clearly.
And yes, even Orthodox Judaism teachings include understanding HaShem as feminine and masculine in abstract concepts.
That spirit has no gender is not the same thing as making humans transgender. It was God who created them male and female, and only joined them in marriage, and acting according to the disorders cause by the Fall of man cannot be justified.
If you wish to learn more about Judaism, I can recommend a few books.
That spirit has no gender
You're confused.