Until we start understanding love is a person, we’ll get no where.
It has no basis in emotion.
Love is Jesus Christ.
You’re right.
Emotions can come and go and our society has determined that some things are emotions and they just happen to us, like we’re the victim of them.
And the same person who is Love, is also Peace (the Prince of Peace), Joy, etc.
So we don’t need God to change our emotions, but we need to be filled with Him who is Love, Joy, Peace. The only way we can know those emotions is to know the One who is them.
It always points back to Jesus, the Author and Finisher of our faith.