You disdain the very sanctimony your post exemplifies, both of you. Self loathing is the sickness of the self righteous.
I disdain perverts who grope the privates of five year-olds, and who keep doing so despite being caught red-handed.
I disdain creepy, cult-member parents who cover it up and go on to accept a TV show so they can hold themselves & their molesting son up as moral examples.
I disdain those same parents for playing "See what we can do because we're married, but you can't" games in front of their teenaged daughter and her fiancee...namely the father grinding his pelvis into his wife's butt, and kissing her and asking, "Did that turn you on?"
So, no...we might all have our own sins to answer for, but I'm thankful to say we are not all the Duggars.