For one that professes to be in touch with feelings you seem to have a way of showing kind words to others. There was no malice in the words that I wrote. Grieving is a human emotion which happens to be inwardly focused. It is all about the personal feeling of loss. Hence, selfish. One can choose what do human emotions. Personally, I rejoice in their going to heaven. In the case of a non-Christian, the heaven part doesn’t apply. Sucks to be them. So, they need to get over it. There is nothing sociopathic about that.
Your ‘pretty close to what I was thinking’ agreement with Ancient Man’s (ping) statement seemed to indicate a bit less humanity than would be called for in a situation like this, at least from where I sit.
The loss does have a personal impact, it is totally appropriate to grieve. It is not appropriate to wallow in self pity, but that is way different from grieving.
If ‘get over it, they’re dead’ is one’s way of (thinking that they are) appropriately expressing sympathy/empathy, I think they need to re-evaluate.
Don’t know if you’ve lost your parents yet (or a spouse, or a child), but I have little doubt that if anyone stated ‘get over it, they’re dead’, your response would NOT be ‘gosh, thanks for those kind words’.
JMO.
And yes, in retrospect, I would have favored writing ‘if one is a sociopath’, so it did not appear that I was referring to you that way. That was not intended.