If I gossip, for instance, I may have done harm to that person that I cannot repair in this life. I can go to the person and say I'm sorry; I can even go to the people to whom I gossiped and try to repair what I've done, but I still can't take back those words that poisoned people's minds against someone because of my sin. Those consequences are at least in part my responsibility, and I must make reparation for them. I can make reparation in Purgatory after I die. I also believe that faith and good works go hand in hand. As a follower of Christ, I must serve Him by accepting my suffering, and actively helping others and worshipping God whenever possible. which makes reparation for my sins in this life.
St. Sir Thomas More said it much better than I ever could: Give me the grace, Good Lord To set the world at naught. To set the mind firmly on You and not to hang upon the words of men's mouths. To be content to be solitary. Not to long for worldly pleasures. Little by little utterly to cast off the world and rid my mind of all its business. Not to long to hear of earthly things, but that the hearing of worldly fancies may be displeasing to me. Gladly to be thinking of God, piteously to call for His help. To lean into the comfort of God. Busily to labor to love Him. To know my own vileness and wretchedness. To humble myself under the mighty hand of God. To bewail my sins and, for the purging of them, patiently to suffer adversity. Gladly to bear my purgatory here. To be joyful in tribulations. To walk the narrow way that leads to life. To have the last thing in remembrance. To have ever before my eyes my death that is ever at hand. To make death no stranger to me. To foresee and consider the everlasting fire of Hell. To pray for pardon before the judge comes. To have continually in mind the passion that Christ suffered for me. For His benefits unceasingly to give Him thanks. To buy the time again that I have lost. To abstain from vain conversations. To shun foolish mirth and gladness. To cut off unnecessary recreations. Of worldly substance, friends, liberty, life and all, to set the loss at naught, for the winning of Christ. To think my worst enemies my best friends, for the brethren of Joseph could never have done him so much good with their love and favor as they did him with their malice and hatred. These minds are more to be desired of every man than all the treasures of all the princes and kings, Christian and heathen, were it gathered and laid together all in one heap. Amen
But if God has forgotten your sin..how does He know how long to leave you there?? I ask again what kind of purging can it be if someone can buy you out of it