Reminds me of another incident when I was an usher at my Catholic church...family came in and sat down before Mass, young teenage boy had a baseball hat on...I went up to him, ‘Uh, son, could you please remove your cap, we’re in church’...he looked right at me and said ‘F*u*c*k You’!
A possible response to that:
“The Bible says women wear hats in worship. Are you practicing to be a girl?”
I’d have snatched that hat off his head so fast after he said it and thrown it outside. I then would calmly told him hats are for outside, which is where his hat now is, if He’d like to retrieve it.
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