In my parish we have remarried couples and unmarried couples. They do not take or ask for Communion. If the Church doesn’t bless their situations they do not go to a different sort of more compatible Church because Truth remains Truth. You can go elsewhere to feel better but you won’t go to Heaven just because that other “church” thinks it can change the rules.Finding a “compatible” church means one is effectively an atheist. One did not and does not believe in anything except mutual earthly personal acceptability.
You are so right.
I think some of these people are telling God He is wrong on this issue. They might want to reconsider their position.