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Your son is part of a bygone era where the male is expected to be kind, but firm; flexible but principled. It's funny that most adult men talking about dating emphasize the guy asking permission for everything, always bending to what she wants, and emphasize equality in decisions. Then you look at their miserable marriages where they wonder why their wives aren't attracted to them and nagging them all the time. Heaven forbid they stand up for themselves and show leadership and backbone. that might make her mad!

If they ever stuck their heads out of the sand, they would realize that women want men to take initiative, be firm in their principles(even if it is not to their advantage), make the hard decisions(as long as they get strong input), and take full responsibility for such decisions.

It's like the generation is so brainwashed by what sounds nice they forgot core biological differences in needs. It doesn't matter how nice a guy is if he's weak. If he can't stand up to her, he can't stand up to anyone who threatens the family. I admit I can't sit on too much of a high horse though. It took me almost thirty years to deprogram myself from the indoctrination I received from well meaning fools.