I think that sounds a little Manichean, arguing against the goodness and intentionality of our being created, male and female, in the image and likeness of God. Specifically as beings who are male-and-female, we express the image of God in our capacity to cooperate in procreating new human life. Jesus Himself specified about marriage that the two become one flesh, not spiritually and emotionally.
St. Paul also said, "Glorify God in your bodies." It's hard to square that with using your spouse up the **** because her natural makeup isn't good enough.
Jesus did say that they become one flesh (quoting Genesis 2:24) AFTER the man leaves his father and mother and is cleaved to his wife. What does it mean to cleave? According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary: to adhere firmly and closely or loyally and unwaveringly. Notice that it is cleave AND become one flesh. There is a bonding between the husband and wife that replaces the bonding to the parents and of which, sex is one part. That sure seems to be talking about the spiritual and emotional bonding to which you are objecting. When God created Eve for Adam, He wasn't just making a complementary set of genitalia. He was making a helpmate to meet all Adam's earthly needs, not just for procreation.
St. Paul also said, "Glorify God in your bodies."
The same Paul also wrote this in Romans 14:
13 Therefore let us stop passing judgment on one another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in the way of a brother or sister. 14 I am convinced, being fully persuaded in the Lord Jesus, that nothing is unclean in itself. But if anyone regards something as unclean, then for that person it is unclean.
The entire chapter has the theme of allowing each to practice his or her own conscience before the Lord. God's Word is binding on the believer, not someone else's conscience or sensitivities. Unless you have chapter and verse to back up your distaste of these practices, I think that Paul is telling you to mind your own business. I'm not defending those sexual practices but I am saying that only God gets to define sin for others. If you find those practices distasteful and you think they are sinful, then don't do them but your conscience isn't binding on other believers who have different convictions unless you have specific guidance from God's Word.