It is because the men expect to get away with demanding to be the boss and the women are supposed to submit. The men conveniently forget that they are directed to lay their lives down for their wives.
The three factors are not mutually exclusive. They are concurrent requirements.
(Married once, 43 years ago, never divorced, never will be. Four adult children, all married once each for a total of 44 years of marriage between them. No divorces.)
Men are called to be the moral foundation of the family, something considered abhorrent in today’s secular world - it is quite apropos for lawyers to delude their selves it mostly men’s fault. Put no-fault divorce as a legal standard and provide many socio-economic incentives for women to divorce their husbands and the institution of marriage has then been effectively weakened and becomes something to be used and abused. And who abuses it more, than lawyers?