[PeterPrinciple]

What I sense here is a bit of arrogance instead of repentance.

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I would concur, it wasn’t his fault. He still is not humbled and broken.

[cripplecreek]

I would concur, it wasn’t his fault. He still is not humbled and broken.

I know a minister who was a member of a parole board. He said he gave extra scrutiny to guys who claimed to have found God in prison. He said lots of guys claim to find God in prison but most of them have only found an excuse (The devil made me do it). He said they almost always reoffended.

He said those who accepted their own guilt and sought true repentance tended to be a far better risk. He pointed out that the devil can tempt you but you alone do the evil.

[metmom]

I would concur, it wasn’t his fault. He still is not humbled and broken.

What happened in his past to traumatize him was not his fault, as in the case for ALL Of us who have issues and trauma, but his responsibility was to deal with it appropriately as a Christian.

There are two resources I've stumbled on recently that are wonderful for doing that.

One is a book entitled *Forgiveness* by Rodney Hogue, and the other is a CD set entitled *How to Have an Emotionally Healthy Marriage* by Jimmy Evans.

The book is a very concise, short read about forgiveness and the DC is almost misleading in its title because it's really about becoming an emotionally healthy person, the side benefit is having an emotionally healthy marriage.

The gist of that is to take responsibility for our actions and reactions, and to forgive.

From person experience, I KNOW how powerful forgiveness can be in taking care of issues and sin.