One of the principles of our Faith is that there are not degrees of sin. Sin is sin. My understanding as a New Testament Christian is that all sin is forgivable except for blasphemy of the Holy Spirit.
I'm sure that Homosexual born-again Christians exist just as cigarette-smoking, heroin-shooting, wife-beating, and profane Christians exist.
Despite a person's sin (and we all have sinned) it is not for you or I to stand as judge for what's in someone's heart of hearts. That is the Lord's concern.
I’d say the failure to notice that such sins are possible, have hamstrung the ability for Christians to minister the conquering power of Christ to people beset by them. We seem to see a false dichotomy between Christians who either say it’s okay (no it’s not, and it is a bad corruption of character) or that if you should commit the sin you are ipso facto damned (the promise of God has the power to override in such a case). And remember the sin of lust needn’t ever go to physical adultery, or buggery... just a look with an evil thought qualifies.
I think our churches are getting de-masculinized, as I have opined elsewhere. We should have tough guy churches! Not wimpy ones, while the tough guys go hang out in bars or cuss on their Harleys or whatever. What kind of reflection on heaven is THAT?