"PREACH THE WORD; be instant in season, out of season; REPROVE, REBUKE, EXHORT with ALL longsuffering and DOCTRINE."(2 TIm.4:2).
Does that sound like high tea with scones and crumpets and white gloves to you? If it does, you either don't want to get into the truth, or you think the truth is always lovey-dovey and bunny burps. Grow up into the Lord. We're in a spiritual battle for men's souls here.