She really is asking for too much, but I don’t think she is malicious, just clueless that life isn’t about McMansions, clothes, and expensive vacations.
If he says no to a “vacay” to San Diego over the 4th of July, after taking her and the boys to Italy for a week over Easter, she won’t talk to him for over a week, never mind other marital relations. (What the heck is worth visiting in San Diego in July, anyway?)
I don’t want to hijack this thread. My pain is overwhelming my better judgement at the moment, and I hope this young couple have a life-long marriage adventure ahead of them.
My husband and I did for 45 years, until Parkinson’s Plus claimed his life. I was his solo caregiver for the last ten years, and it was a challenge, but I know he would have done the same for me. I hate Parkinson’s Plus, by the way.
Being close to 70 yrs old, I can’t fathom why people do not get the concept that marriage isn’t what you get from the relationship, but what you give to it.
Will pass your wisdom on to my son, and thank you for your advice.
My husband and I did for 45 years, until Parkinson’s Plus claimed his life. I was his solo caregiver for the last ten years, and it was a challenge, but I know he would have done the same for me. I hate Parkinson’s Plus, by the way. Being close to 70 yrs old, I can’t fathom why people do not get the concept that marriage isn’t what you get from the relationship, but what you give to it.
God bless you. What a wonderful example of dedication to your husband.
Suggest this book to your son. We've found it very insightful. (The Eldredges are popular Christian authors, and their books are in most libraries.)
My husband and I had almost the opposite issue to your daughter-in-law's: he wants to buy things, and I want him to make an effort at things, such as taking care of his pets instead of taking advantage of the knowledge that I'll do it rather than let them suffer. Buying stuff is easy. Paying attention and participating in my life is (it appears) a lot harder.
I was honestly surprised that he didn't agree to a "services contract" cohabitation, but actually wanted to have a relationship with me. It has to be the Holy Spirit at work!