Well said. Homosexuality is more subjectively repulsive to most people than is fornication, but sexual sin is sexual sin.
This is a very difficult topic. I appreciate the thought, study and prayer that are obvious in your statement.
On one hand we should not be comfortable with sin- be that lust, adultery (the divorce rate in the Church is the same as in the world), greed (the prosperity gospel), hate, gossip, or any other sin.
Yet we live in a world filled with sin. Do we let the divorced sit with us on Sunday? If not, we will exclude about 50% of our country.
Christ died for everyone. In good conscience I can not block someone who is divorced from Christ.
Likewise, maybe 3 to 5% of the world is homosexual. I think that for some it may be a choice, for others I think they were just born that way. How do we deal, in the love of Christ, with this group?
I am not smart enough to judge, nor have I been called to do so. I think my duty is to tell them that Jesus died for them, and loves them. Let God take it from there. I need to, the best I can (and it isn’t easy), show them love, not judgement. The challenge is to balance Christ’s love so that it is not seen as an endorsement of their behaviors.