——I had to wrestle with which pieces of religion do I use and believe in my life,——
Obviously poorly catechized. No notion of the teaching authority of the Church.
Catholics who believe they can pick and choose what they want to agree with are no different than the non-Catholics who follow their own inclinations yet claim to be led by the Holy Spirit.
No matter what their intentions, denying that they are to be subject to those Christ has placed in authority over them is the first step in the worship of their Most High and Holy Self.
Just like those who refused to accept the priests Moses appointed, such folks are defying the will of God and proclaiming that they refuse to bear their cross and follow Christ. It's no surprise that such folks, who believe they can dictate terms to Christ, generally end up in league with the Humanist agenda at least to the extent that they're happy to help spread division among those Christians who do take up their cross and follow Christ.
Those burdens that are common to all mankind are not the cross we must bear. Our cross is the dead weight of self that has to be uprooted and then dragged along behind us as we try to live for Christ rather than for ourselves. Those who hold tight to beliefs that begin and end with self are on the broad highway to destruction no matter how they reinterpret Scripture to comfort themselves along the way.