[PapaBear3625]

Your first wife obviously didn’t truly love you-—she was selfish and not selfless—as true love makes you want to please and sacrifice for the one you “love”.

Exactly. Love involves making an effort to make your loved one happy, regardless of whether you happen to be in the mood.

[cuban leaf]

I’ve said for about 25 years that EVERYONE is both loveable and hateable. When you marry someone you make a commitment to be “on their side”. You will constantly be aware of their loveable side (as a mother would be).

When you fall out of love with your spouse, it is not about them. It is about you. A person can not be responsible for another’s feelings. We all must be responsible for our own.