For Novus Ordo Masses (if one must) find Father Donald French in the New Haven area. Immaculate Conception Church in Waterbury is highly unlikely to be liberal. Find Father Paul Check in the Bridgeport Diocese. I have not been to St. Mary's in New Haven in more than ten years, but it was generally reasonably conservative since you and I were both regulars there. There are others.
As to mere politics, unless we can achieve ABR, there is no point in ABO. R=O=R=O=R=O, etc. Rule or ruin! Also remember: politics is the province of the laity.
elkie, unfortunately I am out-of-town quite often and end up at Mass in Hartford-WestHartford. West Hartford Catholics have to be the silliest people on the planet.
Like I say, I am going to have to find some of the more obscure small parishes where a different type might be spending there time. There’s always the Cathedral in HTFD. It’ll be interesting who I can find.
BTW, Fr. Paul Check married my husband and I two years ago!