Your post really touched me. I was where you are (minus the menopause) 12 years ago. Today I am the mother of three beautiful children by adoption. We, too, struggled with the pain of infertility, but decided to trust in God and follow the “rules” of the Church. We have been blessed beyond measure. It was *not easy* to walk away from those medical options at the time, but I know that God had plans for me beyond biological children. You will be in my prayers.
One of the most wicked things feminists have done is to discredit adoption as the moral alternative to abortion. I am alive today because my mother, long ago, decided not to have me killed but to put me up for adoption.