I too have been questioned about my income (less then what your husband earns) because I have seven children. What really is telling to me is that the ones that ask me the most about the money side of raising a large family are people that I know are making a lot more then I am...bank presidents and vice presidents, owners of real estate companies, etc...and yet their children (never more then two per family) always want to hang out at our house because we have more things to do at the house...they can play pool, ping pong, air hockey, Foosball, video games (five different systems), watch movies, read books (thousands of books) and interact with different animals on the farm. All this on a modest income and no debt. It really is about where we place our priorities.
Yes, exactly. Do you find that people think they have to make excuses to you for not having more children, when you've never said anything to them on the subject?
I'm afraid I roll my eyes rudely at most people who volunteer that they "couldn't afford to have more," since I know what their house, their two SUVs, and their pro football season passes cost ... but they probably believe it, or they wouldn't expect me to believe it.