Sometimes one releases urine with only relief in mind. Other times one trims the grass on a grave, in the reverent belief that a kept grave shows respect for the dead. Others would insist that only one of the correct class keep the grave.
When I was in Germany, there was a Jewish cemetery in the small town where I was stationed. It was unkept. Some of the Christian soldiers gathered volunteers, and led groups of fellow soldiers to trim the vegetation, and straighten the stones. We were mostly not Jews. We did the best we could. It was what we could do. Sadly, there were insufficient local members of ‘the tribe’.
Thank you for both your service AND your kindness.
Mark