With all due credit to you, MD, our beloved and illustrious resident wordsmith ;-), I rather believe that St. Ignatius of Loyola conveyed the message in a few succinct words (in his “22nd Point):
“In order that both he who is giving (the Spiritual Exercises), and he who is receiving them may more help and benefit themselves, let it be presupposed that every good Christian is to be more ready to save his neighbor’s proposition than to condemn it. If he cannot save it, let him inquire how he means it; and if he means it badly, let him correct him with charity. If that is not enough, let him seek all the suitable means to bring him to mean it well, and save himself.”
EXCELLENT words, attitude, perspective. Thx.