Who is the infamous “they”—? Everybody but you?
Have some cheese with that whine.
The “they” would be anyone who is drawn to the largest group they can find because it’s comfortable “belonging”. Most often they are uncomfortable not following the crowd if you will. They need to convince others that it’s their group who is “right”, or “the in crowd” or “the only way”. Most often they will not be the leaders but the followers. They, even though they try to convince you that they are with the right group, will feel very intimidated if challenged.