What's with you guys' eyes? Are we saved by grace, or not? Is salvation a gift of God, or do we "remain out of sin" to earn it?
Are you sure it is "us" who have missed the message of grace?
We see the Good News through the pinnacle of God's revelation - the Gospels. We do not view the Gospels through Paul. That is what is 'wrong' with us.
Are we saved by grace, or not?
We are.
Is salvation a gift of God,
Yes
or do we "remain out of sin" to earn it?
Missed it by that much. You can refuse it and that is far different than your continuing claim of what the Church believes. The Prodigal Son, e.g. The verses from Matthew that I just posted, e.g.