Judith my FRiend,
If I could do physical harm to the perpetrator, believe me, I would.
Of course you would. I doubt, if we knew the details of your sorrow, that we would blame you. Why attempt to do the harm of hatred, though, to others? Can you see the harm your hatred does to you?
There are protestants who have deeply harmed someone I love, in a way that can never be made whole except by God in heaven. I do not, however, hold their church responsible, nor their families, nor those who love them...I am grateful I never had the means of revenge, because I would certainly have used it. God protected me (and them) from my anger...let us protect one another.
Clergy/child sexual abuse is ubiquitous. No church is immune, no church is alone. Shall we then all destroy one another?