Let us explore this apparent contradiction . Do we have evidence of rash judgment accompanied by unmitigated criticism of others who have been accused of scandal while easily dismissing the obvious sin in this case? Jesus is mercy but His Justice demands accountability.
Are you extending the same amount of boundless grace to all sinners or just to certain preferred ones?
Have you been "Judging from the sidelines needing to guard your heart mind and soul" or have you been a player in this game guilty of similar transgressions?
Confession is good for the soul , JN 20:23, and so a personal catharsis might well expiate for past transgressions and would assuage your spiritual equilibrium.May the peace of Christ be with you.
Will Try and wade into this issue later.