Call it an aversion to people who have no respect for the privacy of priests!
I have worked extensively in parishes and witnessed firsthand the relentless pursuit of priests/religious. I find it absurd and disrespectful.
And no, I don’t work for HLI!
Priests should be on hand at all times, all hours of the day. My MIL said initially when her son became a priest, “Oh, they’re working Fr. Bill so hard. He never gets any freedom.” Well, that’s what being a priest is all about. They have no private lives anymore. Their lives are given to Jesus to do as He sees fit. And you’re not altogether correct about Fr. not wanting people to know what’s going on. He remains quiet, I imagine (although I’m not positive), because he is being obedient. At least that’s what a friend of mine told me yesterday who knows Fr. Tom quite well.