You were blessed with her, as she was with you. It is my firm belief that we must be advocates for our loved ones when they are most helpless. Relying on the goodness of others can be a grave mistake.
I think it is the responsibility of each of us to make known our wishes to the family long before we need to...Its not right to leave it up to our kids to make life or death decisions for their parents without knowing what the parents wishes are.....I have a durable power of attorney for medical care and 2 of my kids are listed to make those decisions.....I have in writing what my wishes are and every couple of years I remind my kids and have told them if they feel that they cannot carry out my wishes to let me know and I will assign another of my children to replace them....it should never be left up to the children when one is in serious conditions and in the hospital... That puts a burden on someone else to decide for us and that's not a fair position to put a loved one in...
Too many people don't want to face their own mortality and just leave those decisions they cannot make to someone else...I was only 50 when I made out my will, trust, P of A. My husband died young, at 51 of his one and only heart attack with no previous sign of heart trouble...
I wasn't going to leave my family to make decisions that were my responsibility...many may disagree, but being a nurse I have seen what some family's have to go through making decisions that they were not prepared to make.. just my opinion and others probably disagree....