Look, I'm sorry if it offends -- but I find the preaching that ALL Infants who die Unbaptized, are automatically condemned to Hell, to be a vile, repugnant doctrine.
I mean, Wesley didn't even have the humility to say, "Gee, I'm not sure, there's only a few passages of Scripture which directly touch on the spiritual status of infants." No, he just says, "They're unbaptized, so off to Hell they go!"
No you're not. I think you would freely admit that it gives you great joy to know you are offending.
That being said, you didn't respond to my assertions about the similar Calvinistic conundrum, so I will have to assume that you must agree with my points.
If God hated Esau from before he was born, what is to stop him from hating other children who have not yet been born and who will die in infancy?
If you don't know, then how can you say Wesley was wrong? How do you know that God doesn't reserve his mercy only for those whom he has predestined to be baptized?