My prayers for Mary and her family.
May I respectfully and humbly make a suggestion? Please consider not asking Mary to get back into the saddle. Something is wrong. I ask you, with God’s help, to give her loving support, time, counseling, and space to find her way back. Don’t worry about the Dean’s list. Someday she may be the Dean.
May Our Father hold Mary and you close to his heart and cover you with patience, courage, and understanding.
In full agreement with both of your posts.
May God hold Mary and all who love her, close within His loving embrace.