Like everything you have written today on this thread, you have this, too, backwards.
It is the Arminians who thinks he's the smartest, the most pious, the prettiest, because he makes the "free will" decision to believe.
The Calvinist says it is God who makes that decision and the believer lives out God's decision, through nothing in the believer. Through God's mercy alone.
I think you have a lot in common with your granddaughter. Two pretty peas in a pod.
1Cr 1:27 But God hath chosen the foolish things of the world to confound the wise; and God hath chosen the weak things of the world to confound the things which are mighty
You know on the day of my salvation I kept asking "why me Lord? why me?" The above scripture is the best answer I have ever found ...I am nothing, I have not one thing to commend me to a Holy and righteous God.. I fall on my knees in gratitude that he has adopted me to be His own ...
I was saved by HIS grace and Mercy, not because I was smarter,or more holy or more clever than the unsaved ..but just because HE set his love on me