1) Lie Number one: the Church has no problem with you getting a divorce, none. they do have a problem with you living in sin with a man you are not legally married to and engaging in fornication.
You could have gotten a cert of nullity and there would have no problem getting your second marriage recognized.
2) You knew he was abusive before you married him and you thought you could change him, or that it would be different after you were married.
3)You can be buried in Hallowed ground and you can even receive a Christian funeral in a Catholic Church. Chapter 11 Para 1183, subsection 3: In the prudent judgment of the local ordinary, ecclesiastical funerals can be granted to baptized persons who are enrolled in a non Catholic Church......
My three very best pieces of advice to you are first stop lying when Catholics keep Canon law books right next to the computer. Second Pony up the meager amount that it will cost you to get you first marriage examined and certified as null. Third get to confession and have your second marriage recognized by the Church.
Yeah this may sound nasty, but some times the truth is hard to hear.
No I did not know he was abusive before we married. Before the boys came along he had never showed that side of himself.
I only need my Savior, not any church.
People who blame the victim are despicable.
You’re accusing her of something which you have no knowledge of.
The only thing that sounds nasty is you.
And Catholics wonder why people leave the Catholic church.