On a personal note, I work with 5 men. One is gay; I can’t attest to his sex life. The next oldest one ( approaching 50) is unmarried, has no girlfriend, is NOT gay, participates in a men’s baseball league, is into micro-brewing and lives a celibate life. He does not know how to ‘communicate’ with women but is comfortable with his lifestyle. The other 3 are young. One just got married, another is engaged to marry and the youngest just turned 15 and is playing the field.
Most of the abuse victims are young boys, so it seems that it isn't so much celibacy as homosexuality. We never hear this cause mentioned in the media for some reason. It's sort of the 800 lb gorilla in the room.
If celibacy causes abuse, then mullahs cause sheep fornication, and scantily clad women cause earthquakes.
It’s not that celebacy CAUSES abuse. It’s that the celebacy requirement causes men with normal sex lives to shy away from the priesthood, and that means there is a higher percentage of men with abnormal sex lives in the priesthood. It’s a selection issue, not a causal issue.
A dedicated Trade Unionist was attending a convention in Las Vegas and, as you would expect, decided to check out the brothels nearby. When he got to the first one, he asked the Madam, "Is this a union house?" "No," she replied. "I'm sorry, it isn't." "Well, if I pay you $100, what cut do the girls get?" "The house gets 80% and the girls get 20%." Mightily offended at such unfair dealings, the man stomped off down the street in search of a more equitable, hopefully unionized shop. His search continued until finally he reached a brothel where the Madam responded, "Why, yes, sir, this IS a Union House." The man asked, "And if I pay you $100, what cut do the girls get?" "The girls get 80% and the house gets 20%." "That's more like it!" the union man said. So he handed the Madam $100, looked around the room and pointed to a stunningly attractive blonde. "I'd like her for the night." "Sorry, sir, no doubt you would," said the Madam, gesturing towards an 85-year old woman in the corner, "but Ethel here has seniority."
1Cr 7:7 For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.
1Cr 7:8 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I.
1Cr 7:9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.
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1Cr 7:36 But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of [her] age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry.
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