” This, to me, completely misses the entire meaning of the word GRACE...”
Then you are in a tiny minority. Most of Christendom recognized and still does the truth taught for 20 centuries by the Catholic Church.
Then I am happy to be in that "tiny minority". I live my life in obedience to God because I love him, I am forever grateful for his unspeakable gift and because he has given me a "new nature" that even has this desire to live for him. I am not "perfect" in the human sense but when God looks at me he sees the righteouness which is of God because I am found IN HIM not having my own righteouness, but that which is through faith in Christ.
Philippians 3:8-10
Yea doubtless, and I count all things but loss for the excellency of the knowledge of Christ Jesus my Lord: for whom I have suffered the loss of all things, and do count them but dung, that I may win Christ,
And be found in him, not having mine own righteousness, which is of the law, but that which is through the faith of Christ, the righteousness which is of God by faith:
That I may know him, and the power of his resurrection, and the fellowship of his sufferings, being made conformable unto his death;
MOST Christendom?
Seems to me that only Roman Catholics recognized as truth all the teachings of the Roman Catholic Church. Does the Roman Catholic church comprise most of Christendom? And how do you know?