Remarrying and realizing the failures of your first marriage is far better than burning with passion. Doing so if the right person comes along is far healthier for all concerned.
nope...you don’t get to make the rules hers!!!
And I wouldn't want to try and make up there rules here either. No one will or can ever convince me GOD's hand wasn't in our second marriage. I was free to remarry due to the death of my first wife. My second wife's husband left her, had beaten and cheated on her. He ended the marriage when he took another woman or I should say kid.
Our marriage came after a lot of prayer and a lot of counseling from her preacher {of a conservative church}, his wife, who knew her circunmstance and mine, and believe it or not even a Nun who watched over her in a protected hospital room for three months. What a wedding LOL. A Baptist minister in a hospital chapel. Among the guest? Several Nuns and a Priest as well. If not for the Nuns the marriage may not have happened at all but that is another long story too much to go into. This was in a Catholic ran hospital BTW.
I'll say this much. The odds of our marriage surviving beyond the first year was real slim. There were many things to overcome most newlyweds do not face. You see her first husband was part of the reason she ended up being a quad for life. That happened to her while we were on a date. We married after that. That was almost 25 years ago. Her ex? he's on marriage 5 I think treating all he married the same.
We made what was the best possibe and realistic choice which was marriage out of love for each other and a couple of others who's lives namely two kids she was raising. No marriage? Two young kids in foster care and a young woman in a nursing home for life. Not to mention a second loss for a young man of one he loved dearly. With marriage? A lonely young man got a wife who is his soul mate, two kids got to stay with their mom, a nursing home was not ever considered an option nor will it be, and a lot of blessing came from it all.
Was it sin for us to marry each other? I don't believe it was. If it was it is not an unforgivable one by any means and the marriage has produced lots of good for all it touched including a lot of spiritual growth and GOD dependence.
I'm not not a Solomon I am a forgiven sinner by the Grace of GOD. I make mistakes. Sometimes in this old world things are indeed not as cut and dry as church dogma's would like one to think they are as far as right answers go. In becoming overzealous over certain specific sins more than others the church unwittingly places a burden upon the people that can not possibly be lived under.
Ever stop and wonder about how well GOD knows our future and our needs? I became my wifes caregiver for life. But there is more. 16 years ago she as well became mine when my disability hit me. I have the legs and arm strength to do the manual task including getting her up out of bed. My disability is not one of physical stength or lack there of but rather one where I have trouble with my sensory processing system involving the processing of sound and sight is damaged. This greatly effects concentration as well. We depend on each other to get through the needed task of life and both depend upon GOD to give us strength to do so.