“In the hand may have contributed to the laxness, but it started with disrespect, and thats what really needs to be addressed.”
That’s a good point, and where did the disrespect start? Forget the issue of hand or tongue: what about kneeling? When we line up as if we’re in a queue to get a burger at McDonald’s, and the priest is slapping down the Host like it’s your change, and you can barely pause half a second when receiving due to the press of the line behind you — well, this does not have anywhere near the attitude or the inner experience of kneeling at the rail, and being permitted to take your time getting up from it. Standing and the rushed atmosphere and “keeping in place so we get back to our seats in the same order” all are very disturbing to receiving Communion, even if we receive on the tongue.
Oh, dear, you need to be in a more reverential church.