Thanks for your prayers and kind thoughts. I know I will make it thru this. My biggest concern is my daughter. She doesnt want anything to do with her father. She understands he is sick and not normal. To her, with his odd behavior and all, he is a stranger.
You have my sympathy. I have been almost exactly where you are, teenaged daughter and all. It helped me to understand the difference between fault/blame and responsibility. While my ex’s condition was not his fault and I didn’t blame him for it, it was his responsibility to seek help and begin the process of getting better. He refused to do so. Until he was willing to take responsibility, I knew it was my primary responsibility to take care of my daughters, see to their stability (physical, financial, and emotional), and to take care of myself. They’d already lost one parent. They didn’t need another one falling apart.
As much as you value your vows and your relationship with your husband, your daughter must come first. Please don’t push her into more contact with her dad than she’s ready for. She’ll see it as you siding with him over her and a betrayal. Your husband has to take responsibility for himself and his recovery. No matter how much you want it for him, if he doesn’t take responsibility for getting help himself, it’ll never happen. Once (or if) he does that, the two of you together can work on repairing the family dynamic. Good luck to you. If you just want to vent to somebody who’s been there, Freepmail me.